Dr. Ted Zeff summarizes his research on highly sensitive males, based on interviews with thirty highly sensitive men from five countries:
The North American (U.S. and Canada) HSMs (highly sensitive males) who reported that they had supportive parents as boys and who played group sports as a boy were “never” or “rarely” teased for being sensitive.
However, the North American HSMs who reported that neither parents were supportive of their sensitivity, and who never played team sports as a boy were “usually,” or “always” teased by other children.
Most HSMs “always” or “usually” avoided fighting as a boy, and “did not like watching violence on television or in movies.”
The HSMs from India, Thailand and (most from) Denmark stated that they were “never” or “rarely” teased as a boy for their sensitivity regardless of the variables of supportive parents or participation in team sports.
The HSMs from Thailand and India indicated that they “usually” or “always” had many friends growing up, while virtually all of the HSMs who grew up in North America indicated that they had few if any friends except those who participated in team sports.
Other items from his research include most sensitive boys in all countries indicated they “usually” or “always” thought there was something wrong with them during their childhood, and didn’t fit in with other boys.
They have been intuitive, gentle, responsible, a peacemaker, good at counseling people, and most (94 percent) are heterosexual.
From the news section of his site drtedzeff.com
Hear our audio interview: Ted Zeff on Benefits of Being Highly Sensitive.
Books by Dr. Zeff :
“Every parent of a sensitive boy should read this book.” –Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. author of The Highly Sensitive Person and The Highly Sensitive Child
“The Strong, Sensitive Boy offers practical advice and innovative solutions for parents, teachers, and anyone working with sensitive boys. I highly recommend it.” –Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Minds of Boys
“An insightful, important look at the role sensitivity has in true masculine power. A wonderful guide for parents, sons, and educators!” –Judith Orloff, M.D. author of Second Sight
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