Keeping emotionally safe in relationships is necessary for anyone – but especially for highly sensitive people.
Sarah Dolliver is the Founder of InnerVantage, the “online community for inner-directed individuals (those who focus inward to restore).” [Apparently no longer online.]
In her article Build Better Boundaries, she writes:
* Have you ever agreed to do something that you knew you would rather not do?
* Have you not given yourself enough time to do the things you do want to do, but instead used that time for someone else?
* Have you allowed another person to behave in a fashion or say things around you that you find offensive or repulsive?
* Have you not reflected outwardly what matters so much to you inwardly?
* Have you not taken time to set up your world to work for you in every way?
You are not the only one. In fact, most people do these things, but it is especially prominent among inner-directed individuals because one major way we cope is to sacrifice ourselves to accommodate others.
What is amazing is how each of us can learn to dismiss the discomfort these situations bring.
You get accustomed to the degree of uneasiness you experience, so that becomes the feeling to which you associate as “normal.”
Continued in her article Build Better Boundaries.
The image is from the book Prozac Nation: Young and Depressed in America, by Elizabeth Wurtzel.
Jane Piirto – in her book My Teeming Brain: Understanding Creative Writers comments:
‘In her memoir, Elizabeth Wurtzel spoke of the intensity of emotional memory: “… No one will understand the potency of my memories, which are so solid and vivid that I don’t need a psychiatrist to tell me they are driving me crazy.
“My subconscious has not buried them, my superego has not restrained them.
“They are front and center, they are going on right now. And what I feel as I think of summer camp is completely ugly.
“I want to kill my parents for doing this to me! I want to hack them to death for this… they threw me away and tried to make me ordinary!
“They threw me away with a bunch of normal kids who thought I was strange and made me feel strange until I became strange!”
Piirto adds, “This quotation illustrates the combination of high intelligence.. and high emotionality.. that are hallmarks of the personality of the creative writer.”