Sarah Dolliver on better boundaries for inner-directed individuals
Sarah Dolliver is the Founder of InnerVantage, the “online community for inner-directed individuals (those who focus inward to restore).”
In her article Build Better Boundaries, she writes:
* Have you ever agreed to do something that you knew you would rather not do?
* Have you not given yourself enough time to do the things you do want to do, but instead used that time for someone else?
* Have you allowed another person to behave in a fashion or say things around you that you find offensive or repulsive?
* Have you not reflected outwardly what matters so much to you inwardly?
* Have you not taken time to set up your world to work for you in every way?
You are not the only one. In fact, most people do these things, but it is especially prominent among inner-directed individuals because one major way we cope is to sacrifice ourselves to accommodate others.
What is amazing is how each of us can learn to dismiss the discomfort these situations bring. You get accustomed to the degree of uneasiness you experience, so that becomes the feeling to which you associate as “normal.”
Continued in Build Better Boundaries.
Image from book Prozac Nation: Young and Depressed in America, by Elizabeth Wurtzel – see quotes on the page Intensity/sensitivity3.
